Happiness - Cause and Effect
June 1, 2009
Your reaction to the events around you determines how you feel and how you affect those you come into contact with. Consider the following example:
Jane, a bank executive, got caught in traffic on her way to an important presentation at a board of directors meeting. As a result, she was forty-five minutes late for her presentation. After the meeting Jane was in a really bad mood. Upon returning to her office she discovered that several expected reports were not there.
Jane called Kevin, her administrative assistant, into her office and reprimanded him for not ensuring the reports had arrived on time. Another department was preparing the reports. Kevin had no control over when they would be delivered. Jane was in a foul mood and she didn’t want to hear any excuses.
Upset and stressed, Kevin called Donna, the secretary for the department preparing the reports. He started yelling at her that the reports that he had requested had not arrived. Although this was the first Donna had heard of the reports, Kevin didn’t care. He was upset and took his anger out on Donna.
Choose To Integrate Body, Mind, & Soul
May 29, 2009
Our bodies were made in such a way that everything is integrated. The mind appears to control everything. When something happens to the body whether good or bad, it registers in the brain and the brain then dictates the bodies response. Scientists has found that it also works that way within the body. Biofeedback has shown that the mind can direct the immune system to fight various infections in the body includ- ing the dreaded strains of cancer. For the average person this is a wonderful idea, but biofeedback costs money and besides not everyone has a life threatening problem. Imagine being able to do this for yourself in the comfort of your own home, office or anywhere else you can go to be alone for a few minutes! There are another kind of science that is telling us that the body listens when we talk. Think about that for a minute. When we talk we are saying what the mind is thinking; we are just saying it outloud. So, it follows we can do our own biofeedback anywhere we want. A very simple illustration of this will prove this to you. Hold your arms out in front of you extending your two index fingers. Shut your eyes and repeat our loud, “fingers come together”. Think it and say it and within two minutes your fingers do come together. When I first tried this it was very exciting to me that it worked because for me it opened possibilities in my mind! Since then I have become a talker to myself! A self whisperer if you will. I talk to my body and to my sub conscious even and I have gotten amazing results. This is one thing that I think will work for everyone because this is one of the functions of the body, mind and soul that was part of the design, just as blood running through everyone’s body is the same. But, you must have an open mind! Your mind accepts that blood runs through the body in a specific manner and so it must accept that the body, mind and soul will listen when it is spoken to, no matter who is speaking, yourself or someone else.
Body, Mind, and Soul
May 25, 2009
Being in tune with your mind, body, and soul and how they work is the one most important thing you can do for yourself. We know now that, the three work together. If the body is ill, the mind and soul are affected as well. If the mind becomes ill the body and soul show the stress of that. But, I think the strongest combination showing the most illness is when the soul becomes stressed. That seems to make the body and mind crumble the quickest. I, myself, have learned that first hand! But, it also works in the reverse! When the body is healthy, the mind is sound and the soul is happy. Keeping these three in balance is a life long task. So, learning how to do it and then maintaining it with little effort is very important. We do have other things in life to accomplish! However, the other things we are accomplishing will be enhanced and go much easier if we take the time to be in tune with ourselves.
Hanging Out
May 22, 2009
Right off the top: What is the difference between dating and hanging out?
My teens try to differentiate the two by saying that dating is what you do with someone you want to be serious with. Hanging Out is what you do with good friends.
I guess perhaps age has slowed my mind up somewhat.
Even though I’m not that old.
To me, they seem similar. I should think that you would want to hang out with those you would be interested in dating.
Isn’t that right?
You should be dating, "hanging out", with those you would like to consider a serious relationship with.
It is in the hanging out with each other that you get to know each other. You get to be around each other with your hair let down. You discover their likes, their dislikes, their habits, idiosyncrasies, hopes, goals, and dreams.
Maybe it would be more correct to want to "hang out" with the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Smile
May 18, 2009
How do we smile at each other? Is there a message communicated between us as we smile? Does it convey the depth of our feelings we have for each other? Take note of how our smiles deepen in feeling toward each other as our relationship grows and time passes. Note how our smiles reflect our joy as we pass time together without insignificant complaints.
You’ve heard it said that we all have something to give. That something is a simple smile. A smile that conveys not only friendship, but simple love. And are we not aware that we should love everyone? We should love all. But we also know that those we love the most are those we know the best.
The more time we spend with our companion, the happier we are. Business and other affairs of life may take us away from home for certain periods of time. Do not allow the association of others outside the home to become more important than the associations we have at home. Do not allow commitments of the world to outweigh the committment of our companionship and relationship at home. Being at home with our partner should be the place we long to be, amid all the duties and responsibilities of life. We should foster a relationship with our companion that turns our steps homeward when our daily duties are accomplished. Companionship with our special loved one is the means of developing and encouraging that love which initially brought us together.
Do You Still Have This Type of Dreams?
May 15, 2009
Jesus says in Matthew 13:25
“But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat and went his way”
The greatest danger that we face in the spiritual world happens when we sleep.
There are 40 kinds of “tares” i.e. problems that can be introduced into a person’s life while she’s asleep.
If you’ve had any of these dreams, it’s time to take action:
1. do you eat or drink in the dream?
2. do you have sex in the dream?
3. do you swim in the dream?
4. are you being chased or bitten by cats or dogs
5. do you get shot at in the dream?
6. do you have accidents in the dream?
7. has anything been stolen from you in the dream?
“I don’t dream, or I don’t remember what I dream if I do.”
That’s a feedback I’ve been getting from an overwhelming number of people.
But what has God to say?
In Job 33:14-18, we read:
“For God speaks once, yes twice, yet man perceives it not.
King Solomons Mind
May 12, 2009
“Don’t you understand, everything in this life is meaningless,” cautioned the old man.
“Meaningless? Everything? Surely not!” responded the young man in disbelief.
Smiling the old man continued, “I know, I know, because I’ve seen it all. You name it, and I have done it. I not only did it, but I did it in a big time, kingly fashion.
“I denied myself nothing, nothing at all. But looking back on it now, I tell you, none of it really amounted to a hill of beans.
“What do think is worthwhile in life, son? The pursuit of happiness? I had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines.
“I had music from men and women singers whenever I wanted it; all the wine I could drink whenever I wanted it; and a palace full of folks falling all over themselves doing everything possible to get in my good graces.
“But when you get everything you want whenever you want it, you quickly realize how meaningless pleasure is. Whenever you seek pleasure, pleasure eludes you. The only way you find pleasure is by seeking something else first.
Being Together
May 9, 2009
When it comes to happiness, togetherness is probably the most common cause of such feelings.
Being together means more than just close proximity. It means doing together, too. Reading together, traveling together, doing projects together and playing together.
Make plans and goals and dreams together. It is especially fun to dream together! Have a night out on the town. Go to dinner and a play. Windowshop some. Have reservations at a hotel where you will not be disturbed by your outside world until tomorrow. Then stay up late. Spend the time talking and planning and playing. Leave your cell phones off.
"Sure", you say. "What about personal time?"
Well….Everyone needs their own time alone, too. Time for personal growth and development. But that is not the topic of discussion, here. Maybe some other time.
For now, we are talking about when you are together, and being together when you are together!
It may sound silly, but you can then spend some time coloring together. Yes. It is a bit different. But try it….you may like it!
7 Unique Ways To Make Someone Smile
May 5, 2009
Do you want to put a smile on someone’s face? Maybe make their day a little bit brighter? It doesn’t have to take much time or money on your part. In fact, many things can be done as a part of your normal routine and cost little or nothing. You won’t know how many people are encouraged by your kindness because smiles are contagious. Try out one or more of these 7 ways today to put smiles on their faces.
1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!
2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.
The Gift is in the Giving
May 1, 2009
I have to be honest. I made the woman cashier at BIG! LOTS cry. I had shopped and gathered three baskets full together at the check out line and she just kept saying "This is so emotional". I just kept encouraging her by acknowledging that she was playing an important part in making a lot of people very happy, that she was participating in an essential act of charity.
I rarely make people cry when I shop, but today was something special. I had checked my "Giving" jar and found it quite full since I’d been on vacation last month, so I called one of my favorite charities to find out what was on their wish list. Then, I went shopping.
I wanted to have my money make a difference on their behalf, so I went to a discount store. As I went through the store, I was thinking of the abused women and children who didn’t have the luxury of going out to buy what they desired. I was on a mission of charity on their behalf.
